FAMILY: Uncomfortable Words and Addictions

So you may start squirming in your seat but this has to be part of the conversation. If you are reach your full potential, take control of your life, emotions, and freaking hormones. This is both to men and women, but since I am a man, this is especially for men.

Addictions end lives, Marriages, Families, and your true potential. End them now so you don't end something else later. No addiction is worth it. If you are married, your wife and kids ARE worth it. No drug, game, or naked body is worth losing everything.

DRUGS: Do we really need to go into this? Is there any question in your mind that drugs are bad for you and take you away from your asperacions.

Pornography is not real. Pornography kills families and the aspect that most women have on themselves. Because I am single, I get to talk to a lot of women, inside this line of work and outside, especially on the dating scene and pornography is so often one of the reasons for the divorce. So if you are trying to fix your family life, the first thing you need to do is fix your own hormones. Take control over your life and if you watch or look at porn, you have no control, it controls you.

That's right. Its like you have parents again and you are a child with that addiction telling you what to do. How do you like that feeling? There is not one man who thinks they have to look at porn that is in control of their life. They are controlled by it. It's the same thing that every drug does to you. After that first fix, you are always looking for your next better picture and then that translates into looking at other women because "your wife isn't hot enough". Actually, the truth is, your wife is probably hotter than you are.

The really sad thing about pornography is that you can never be satisfied with what you have because those women on those sites are not real, with 5" waists and DDD bra sizes. Because they aren't real, you can never be satisfied with your wife. And she is the pinnical of your family.

If you don't respect your wife, you can't respect and be the best example for your kids. It is literally impossible because you end up losing respect for your wife and kids pick up on all that. They pick up on everything. How can you be a good father when you aren't a good example?

I know you don't like this but remember also that those women on there are daughters to other fathers as well and how would you feel if your daughter showed up on your porn site. Never happen right, well it has happened many times before. There are a few cases where the daughter heard about her father's addiction to pornography and in the end thought it was okay to do. You may try to keep it in the closet but no secret stays in the closet. It always comes out.

RECOVERY: Now that I have beaten you and called you a bad husband and father, let's talk about what to do. I haven't looked at porn since I was a teenager because I was blessed to have an intervention. So this is your intervention. I am standing up side by side with you to help you through this hardship. I am shoulder to shoulder with you and am here to guide you in anyway I can.

Allow me to help you through some STEPS OF RECOVERY:

1) Accepting: It's always the first step. Not to anyone else but yourself first. Are you addicted to porn? You need to hear yourself say it.

2) Confession: That's right, now you need to confess it to your wife and any spiritual leader you have. This is a cry for help and they will understand and they will be overjoyed that you confessed it. Guarenteed. They may or may not know but they do know it takes a big man to step up.

3) Public: Move your computer and all screens to public places. Ask your wife for help. Don't think of her treating you like a child but a loving spouse standing shoulder to shoulder with locked arms, fighting this addiction. Ask her for special help.

4) Moving: When you feel the urge, go out for a walk. Take some time off. Get out moving to get those hormones flushed from your system. Tell your wife, she may have ways to help you as well. Be alert and cautious that you never find yourself alone with these feelings. Maybe splash your face with ice cold water or take a cold shower.

5) Seek help: Only in the hardest cases, go get help from a trained professional. Remember, this is not just for your wife's sake, but your kids as well. You are doing it for all of them and then again, especially for you. You may also want to look up the Alcoholics Anonymous 12-Step program and start reading it, replacing Alcohol with pornography. It works.

This is a serious addiction. One that is potentially the most dangerous because while the most spoken of addictions are where you add chemicals to your body, this one is driven by natural chemicals from within.

You can do this, I have no doubt. You are strong enough and the only way you will reach your full potential is if you take power over these feelings.

ACTION ITEMS:

1) Recognize your lack of power against pornography. It is a common disease among men and women.

2) Recognize you desire to change. Find a reason that will satisfy you, including reaching your full potential.

3) Go through the steps of recovery. Each step is essential to your growth. Gain control of your life, your emotions, and the future of your family.

Be an amazing husband and father and stop the addiction right in its tracks. You have that potential, but can't reach it if you can't control yourself.

Women, it is just as bad if you do it as well. There is a growing population of women that go online to watch the same thing. What if you saw your son on your site or watching porn, would that be okay? Then why is it okay for you. Take the 5 steps to recovery and be an amazing wife and mother. You can gain control of your life, but not when an addiction controls you.

Be an amazing wife and mother and stop the addiction right in its tracks. You have that potential, but can't reach it if you can't control yourself.