"Good Guys Finish Last" - Training our Brains.

Have you ever believed that the bad guys or girls always get their good girls or guys? Say on the dating scene it always seems like the bad guys always got the good girls or in business, the corrupt or the unethical businesses became successful, well it's not always true and it doesn't have to be, but here is the point we all need to understand.

When we are in a hard place in life, when something in our life is suffering, it is always easier to blame or compare our failures to someone else. Take life for instance, if we get in a fight with our spouse and are frustrated or down right angry with them, isn't it easy to see the neighbors or one of your friends and think that they have the easy life. How about when you feel neglected or abused, you think that the grass is greener on the other side, well its not. The first thing our mind does is that it tries to compare what we have with what other people have, even the bag guys or unethical businesses. How about when we are feeling down about ourselves and then we see someone with the perfect body. This is a trick that our minds play against us because it just seems easier to make excuses than to fess up to what is really going on.

So what is really going on? Your mind will always try to find excuses to make you feel like you have an excuse. It's not the "mind's" fault per sea. It's us, we have programmed it through years of comparing and it is just running off our programming. When someone says something about ourselves, we will store it as happy thouhgts or criticism and we will pay more attention to the criticism than the happy thoughts. That is training our minds to find hard things and we need to curve that.

So what do we do. Stop it. Stop the negative or thoughts of justifying our failures. Start to find positive and affirm ourselves with love and words of affirmation, success, and optimism. I am not telling you to just become an optimist but instead to become more of a positive influence in our own lives.

Here are some exercises you can do to grow this optimism in your mind and life:

1) When you wake up, automatically go outside and go for a walk. If you need to buy a dog so you feel obligated to take them out for a walk, please do that... I did. Now every morning, I wake up, go to the bathroom, and then head out the door. Getting your blood pumping does more for your body than a cup of the strongest coffee and wakes you up immediately. Get out of bed and just start going. This blood pumping can also send endorfines and dopamine throughout your mind and body because you are accomplishing something great. Get out and do something.

2) Second, now that you are awake, start an exercise routine. Because I don't have much time, I always do 1-2 repetitions of the 7-minute workout on my smartphone. Now who can't spare 7 minutes to change their day. This will not only help you lose weight but it will also help you feel more accomplished. In less than 30 minutes, you just completed two monumental tasks that woke you up and got you going.

3) Wake up each day and write in your journal (start a journal if you haven't yet). Now in the first section of that journal entry, write down 1 minute , 60 seconds of words of affirmation. These words focus on your strengths, your goals, your passions and words that empower and ignite you inside.

4) Finish your day with 2 successes in your life. So leave two lines at the end of your daily journal entry for these successes. This can be anything but they need to be positive and not pitty positive.

By waking up and going to bed focusing on successes you mind and body you are retraining your body to focus on success and not failures or comparing yourself to others. You are in control of your life, you just need to train it to be positive and open to succeess.

These are the types of training that will teach your mind and body to seek after success and ultimately find success.